Parent Vows to Young Children: Honoring a Blended Family
Sometimes, one or both partners bring children into their marriage from a previous relationship. It is important to acknowledge the wedding as not only about the joining of the couple, but also the creation of a new family.
The Parent Vows to Children Ceremony is one way to celebrate and acknowledge the new family constellation, while including the children. Adding this element to the ceremony demonstrates to the children that they are a real part of the new family that’s being created. It’s also a way to embrace the parent/spouse, by embracing their children. These vows are typically spoken after the Marriage and Ring Vows.
I have included an example of vows which were read to the three daughters (ages 5, 7 & 10) of a groom I married recently. Both he and his bride-to-be spoke their vows to his daughters, after which they gifted them with a necklace. The girls were delighted and there were tears and laughter as their guests looked on with joy. The necklaces will always remind the girls of their honored place in the family, as well their special part in the wedding ceremony ~
This ceremony marks not only the union of Grace and Joel as husband and wife, it also celebrates their joining together with Anna, Paula and Joni ~ to form a new family.
Anna, Paula and Joni ~ I want you to know that I love your Dad very much.
I promise you that I will love you and care for you as if you were my own.
I promise to be a committed listener.
I promise you my trust, my support, what knowledge I can share,
to be fair, to be your friend, and to give you a shoulder to cry on.
I promise to be available to you as I am to your father.
Anna, Paula and Joni ~
Grace and I both promise to be patient and support each of you, to love you, guide you, to give you strength and room to grow,
We promise to always be there for you.
We promise to take you to cool places and get lost trying to get there, giving you wonderful memories and adventures and fun along the way!
You are my girls and I will always love you and be there for you!
The couple place necklaces on each girl.
Everyone hugs and kisses and the girls return to their places.